definitions...

I was wondering today what the definition of adoption was...So here is what it says:

A`dop´tion

n.	1.	The act of adopting, or state of being adopted; voluntary acceptance of a child of other parents to be the same as one's own child.
	2.	Admission to a more intimate relation; reception; as, the adoption of persons into hospitals or monasteries, or of one society into another.
	3.	The choosing and making that to be one's own which originally was not so; acceptance; as, the adoption of opinions "Voluntary acceptance of a child of other parents to be the same as one's own child" No where in this definition does it state... "A child given away by their natural/birth mother because they cannot or will not be able to take care of that child."  No where in this definition does it state... "A child given away/relinquished by their birth mother, who will never be able to see them again because of that relinquishment" No where in this definition does it state... "A child given away by their birth mother who does not want said child to ever be able to know where he/she came from or be allowed to have their original birth certificate or medical information." And yet...that is exactly what most people believe about birth mothers. I wonder why it is that we are such a narrow minded society. What about  the definition of Mother:1moth·er MOTHER noun \ˈmə-thər\ Definition of MOTHER 1 a : a female parent b (1) : a woman in authority; specifically : the superior of a religious community of women (2) : an old or elderly woman 2 : source, origin <necessity is the mother of invention> 3 : maternal tenderness or affection   "A female parent...maternal tenderness or affection"   No where in this definition is there  a reference of difference between a birth mother and an adoptive mother.   lets talk about what we are sometimes called...we are called birth mother, natural mother, B-mom, real mother, other mother and names that a lady does not say, names that make us feel less than. Adoptive mothers too are called just that adoptive mothers, A-mom, and often they are belittled with statements like "oh your not his/her real Mom", a statement that often makes them feel less than.  WHY can't we just be called Mom or Mother? Because after all isn't that who we are? Didn't we both play a role? Don't we sort of walk hand in hand with each other? What threat are we to one another? Why can't a person have 2 mothers? In same sex unions children have 2 mothers or 2 fathers...in divorces children have step-mothers. Are any of these mothers less than? We each have our own set of emotions surrounding adoption. Some are negative, such as dealing with guilt for not being able to raise a child, or guilt for not being able to bare a child. But most of them are maternal feelings... We both carry love for that same child...both of us wishing for only the best for them...one gets to display that love the other holds it close in their heart. We both just want to be called MOM!