| "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr Seuss | |
The funny thing about a "secret" is once you let it go you feel liberated in a lot of ways...and it suddenly becomes safe for others to tell their "secret". It is like a snowball effect....it gets larger and larger. I have had the privilege of not only sharing my story about adoption with others now for the past year with great joy, but I have also had the privilege of hearing other peoples stories. Had I NOT contacted an old friend on facebook who knows if I would be writing here today. No two stories are the same...but each one has been told from the heart.
I have also read a few "adoption" books...stories of other peoples' feelings about adoption...theories about how adoptees...birth mothers...adopted families feel and how adoption has affected their lives...some of these books were written by Doctors and others written by either birth mothers or adoptees...and what I found is that very little of what most of them wrote mirrored my story and my sons...and most of them led the reader to believe that ALL adoptees and birth mothers felt the same...angry...depressed...lacking...and although I can relate to some of what they say...I rarely believe that I feel such resentment as they describe...nor does my son.
I am finding that my son is much more adjusted with being adopted than I am about entrusting him to the adoption (but I am consciously working on that) What I have found from reading and talking is that: EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT!
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