birthday...

On the day of my son's wife's birthday I received an e mail from him...(Jan. 9, 2015)

Mom:

Although you maybe well intentioned, please do not contact my wife at this time. In her letter she asked that of you and I would appreciate that you honor her request.
Love

Again I felt as if I was between a hard place and a rock...If I had not sent a gift would I have been considered " mean, or cruel" or "unkind" for not acknowledging her..

I sent an e mail back...

Son...
Yes...your wife did ask that I not contact her...however she also asked that I think about the letter she had written and then decide what to do with the information. So the contact that I have made was my sincere apology....and I sent the missing Christmas gifts and a birthday gift which is what I would normally do.

I have no idea what it is that I should or should not be doing....but I am gathering that I should not be doing anything at all...I am not sure if that means I am not to have contact with you or with the children. Please let me know if that includes cards and gifts for the kids as their birthdays are coming up....I do not know the ground rules...

I am aware...your only responsibility is to your wife and your children.

Although my heart is breaking, I rejoice in knowing you....I hold your heart in mine...I truly have been blessed to have met you and your family. I will cherish the memories that I hold in my heart and I will hold on to the hope that there will be a "some day" where we may make more.

Know that I love you....I love my grandchildren...I love your wife.

Love does not give up...especially after so many years of separation...so I will hold onto the belief that love with conquer all in time....

Please remember that you are SO LOVED.