To acknowledge or not acknowledge...that is the question...

I was receiving no correspondence of any sort...and I was hurt...confused...and depressed.

My son's wife's birthday was approaching...do I acknowledge it? or do I not?

There are decisions that one must make with their heart...and so I made the choice to send out a card and gift for her birthday along with the missing gifts from Christmas.

My son's wife likes to bake so I choose a French pastry book along with a Madeline pan. The pan was sent from William and Sonoma but I sent the book myself...along with a card with a note inside.

I am sorry that you have carried around so much hurt for such a long time, and that you feel that I am the cause of that hurt. Please know that I have never intentionally set out to hurt you or be disrespectful. I have always held love and respect for you as a person, a wife, and a Mother since our first meeting. That the children have always had my love and devotion as a grandparent since that meeting also.

Words can be our best friend or our worst enemy...and had I known that my choice of words hurt you I would of corrected that without hesitation. I did not know that there was anything wrong between us. I do not want you to continue to feel bad, as your feelings are very important to me...and that you know you can approach me if your feelings are hurt by something I have said or done.

There is no map for the path of reunion....and we are still learning how to navigate the road...my wish is that we can begin to travel down the road again with a new outlook of honesty and trust.

My hope that you will be able to forgive me...I love you...I love the children....I love my son and I will work very hard to show that....and I mean that with all my heart.

I sent everything off so that it would arrive on her birthday...and my heart felt good about doing that.