Several lines in the email I received from my son's wife did not seem to go hand in hand...
" It is an all or nothing proposition"..."We would like to move past this...you will return the items and we will all begin to move forward together slowly, or you will not".(plus the other things that I had to do on the list)
What is the difference between a proposition and an ultimatum?
Here are the meanings according to Merriam-Webster's dictionary:
Proposition: Anything stated or affirmed for discussion or illustration. The act of offering or suggesting something to be considered, accepted, adopted or done.
Ultimatum: A final, uncompromising demand or set of terms issued by a party to a dispute, the rejection of which may lead to a severance of relations or to the use of force.
So lets say you believe that someone has done you wrong...but you say you want to make things right...Do you offer up a proposition or an ultimatum? Or better yet, do you open your heart in the name of love? Our perception of any given event is usually different from someone else...how do you defend yourself when you did not do what they believe or are saying you did...
Do you tell them if they do ABC than they can still be in your life and get back in your good graces? Do you tell them that if they don't do ABC than they cannot? Do you tell them that it is an all or nothing proposition?
Or is that an ultimatum?
Would you feel you are a winner if the person does the ABC? Would you feel that they lose if they don't?
Love: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
As for me...
I choose LOVE...because LOVE always wins!
Here are the meanings according to Merriam-Webster's dictionary:
Proposition: Anything stated or affirmed for discussion or illustration. The act of offering or suggesting something to be considered, accepted, adopted or done.
Ultimatum: A final, uncompromising demand or set of terms issued by a party to a dispute, the rejection of which may lead to a severance of relations or to the use of force.
So lets say you believe that someone has done you wrong...but you say you want to make things right...Do you offer up a proposition or an ultimatum? Or better yet, do you open your heart in the name of love? Our perception of any given event is usually different from someone else...how do you defend yourself when you did not do what they believe or are saying you did...
Do you tell them if they do ABC than they can still be in your life and get back in your good graces? Do you tell them that if they don't do ABC than they cannot? Do you tell them that it is an all or nothing proposition?
Or is that an ultimatum?
Would you feel you are a winner if the person does the ABC? Would you feel that they lose if they don't?
Love: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
As for me...
I choose LOVE...because LOVE always wins!
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